Candles and Cocoons
Dreams are candles
to help us through the dark
Once used, they have to melt.
Very often, we define ourselves by what we want or dream of. I want ot be an actor or a musician or president or a grandmother. I dream of being famous, of going down in history, of being a hero or heroine. Yet when our lives shape us differently, we often think we hae failed, that we are settling for less, becuase we weren’t good enough to become or have what we wanted.
Certainly, as we experience our limitations, this sometimes feels true. Yet even through our limitations, we evolve rather than fail, the way a caterpillar becomes a chrysalis becomes a butterfly, and the succession of life’s trails is precisely the unfolding we need to find our bliss and rightful place in the order of things.
The truth is what we want or dream of doesn’t always last. It tends to serve its purpose in our development and then fades away, losing its relevance. And we can do enormous damage to ourselves by insisting on carrying that which has died.
Here is an example: A friend of mine as a teenager wanted very badly to be a professional basketball player. His gifts were enough to hide his limitations for a while and he played in both high school and college. But when he stopped playing his sophomore year in college, he discovered his calling as a poet. This carried him for almost 18 years until cancer opened him to the uncovered life of spirit.
He did not fail at being a basketball player nor did poetry fail him. More accurately, his inwardness evolved with enough life experience, so that moving bodily in the air evolved in the poet’s dance of feeling which then evolved into the spirit’s grace of being. He no more failed in his desire to be a basketball player than the cocoon fails the butterfly, though the form of the dream was painful to lose.
Living up to a dream is rarely as important as entering it for all it has to teach
This week’s Soul Challenge:
*try to recall the first dream that really took hold of you
*what did you want from this dream?
*what has the dream taught you and where has it led you?
*is the essence of that dream still with you?
*do you have a dream now?
*what is it teaching you?
Chief Travel Partner
Thank you for sharing this journey with me.
I love you deeply, for in truth we are old friends.
We are One.