Practical Mindfulness Steps
You may be unable to look outside of yourself as you begin to learn how to be more mindful and forgive yourself and those around you. It can take practice. The steps in this section are about gaining the practical ability to attain mindfulness as a way to learn how to forgive.
- Walk into work and observe the people you work with. What are they wearing? What tasks are they doing well?
- Tomorrow, go into work, and give someone a compliment. It needs to be from the heart, and based on something you note about the person. For example, is the person wearing a prettier outfit than the day before, when you observed them? Did the person accomplish a task today better than yesterday?
- Go to your favorite coffee shop. Ask the cashier to recommend a drink. Try that drink. While you do not know it, you have just been mindful. You are respecting the person and their knowledge about coffee. You have also given them something to show off in their skills. It doesn’t mean you need to like their suggestion, but you have at least considered their opinion.
- Tomorrow go to the same coffee shop, pay for the person in front or behind you. Even if you cannot truly afford to buy someone else’s coffee, do so. You’ll just have to forgo tomorrow’s coffee. However, in paying for someone else’s drink, you are being mindful of that person, you are acknowledging that they exist. It is not to make yourself feel better, but to say “hey, you matter and I noticed you are here.”
- On a day off, go to a park, zoo, or other public area. Instead, of looking around at the exhibits, store windows, or paying attention to a person who came with you, observe those around you. Look for different emotions being displayed. Do you see someone with children who is frazzled? Does a single person look like they are running late? Is there a particularly happy person? See these emotions and feel the impact they have on you. What you want to feel is empathy. You want to acknowledge that someone is struggling or feel elated because someone else is happy.
When you do these little things, it will start to have an impact on how you think and feel. You can look at a scene that seems petty and juvenile and attribute it to something that happened in your life. You might look at the same scene and know that something like that has never happened to you, thus your life is a little better. More than anything, you want to find empathy for the person who is struggling.
The suggestions in the post are simply that. They have been given to help each of us find a way to be more mindful and to regain empathy. Once you regain your own empathy and reflect on your interactions and reactions in situations, you are going to find forgiveness towards others is easier. As soon as you are able to forgive those that have slighted you or truly impacted your way of thinking, then you can find peace. Peace is when you are content with your life, with your emotions, and how you are more capable of interacting with others.
Thank you for sharing this journey with me
I love you deeply, for in Truth we are old friends.
We are one!!